Ponderings on Relationships, Careers, and Community

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The Workplace (and the World) Needs More “RAPKG”


A few weeks ago I received a thank you note from someone who attended one of my corporate workshops on how to maximize business relationships. The person was thoughtful in sending the note, but I especially appreciated the specific reference to the best practices that resonated with her and how she planned to apply them in her life. The note of gratitude and the lessons it contained have stuck with me and been the catalyst for some deeper thinking about the importance of random acts of praise, kindness and gratitude or “RAPKG” for short.

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A Road Map to Candid Work Conversations

iStock_000035377844MediumYou are in a staff meeting listening to a work colleague drone on about his success on a recent project, but you know he is actually behind and over budget. What do you do? One of your direct reports has a few self-limiting behaviors that are impeding her career growth and negatively affecting the team, but you don’t want to hurt her feelings. Performance reviews are coming up and you need to rate her work. How will you handle the situation? A colleague lacks self-awareness about the negative reputation he has earned in the company. He doesn’t work for you, but you want to help him get back on track. How will you approach him? One of your company’s senior executives consistently asks for feedback, but you doubt his sincerity. A business problem arises that you know will reflect poorly on decisions made by this leader. Will you have the courage to speak up?

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Are You an Unconnected Leader?

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As they ascend the corporate ladder, many leaders do a curious thing … they stop networking. This can have a significant long-term negative impact on a career. I have observed this phenomenon over much of my professional life, most recently in conversations with a number of senior business leaders who have unexpectedly found themselves in career transition. Many spend the first few months of the job search rebuilding networks they failed to maintain while employed. However, the need for leaders to maintain effective, dynamic networks goes well beyond a possible date with destiny in the ranks of the unemployed.

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Best Practices for Seeking Feedback

iStock_000001283477MediumThe act of asking for candid feedback is often one of the scariest things we do as professionals, but it does not have to be this way. The feedback we receive from colleagues and clients can help us adjust our approach, fix major issues before they get out of control or stay the course. Feedback can and should be considered a gift, not something to avoid.

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Acts of Kindness, the Goodness of People & Lessons Learned

I am blessed to be the father of a wonderful teenage son named Alex, who has high functioning autism. Our family has countless stories and experiences describing how Alex has touched our lives and made us better people, but that is not the subject of this post. The words you are about to read are meant to pay homage to the incredible kindness of people who have come into my son’s life this year, the gifts they have given him and the lessons I have drawn from these experiences.

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The Illusion of Success

iStock_000059916696_MediumI recall a few years ago when my father came to our house for a visit, which he typically does two or three times a year.  He loves to see his grandsons and we talk to him every week by phone, but because of his health it is sometimes difficult for him to travel from his Florida home to Atlanta.  I have occasionally written about my dad over the years and the wise counsel and good example I have always received from him.  This particular weekend visit was different because of a powerful lesson he helped me teach my then 13 year-old son.

On the Saturday afternoon of my dad’s visit, my son and I were throwing the football outside while my father was taking a short nap in his room.  I can always tell when one of my boys has something on his mind so I probed and asked him if there was anything he wanted to share.  He responded with, “Dad, remember when we talked about what it means to be successful a few weeks ago?  Is Papa successful?”

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Five Questions for Pat Falotico, CEO of the Robert K. Greenleaf Center for Servant Leadership

greenleaf_logo_mec_FNL_colorCMYKI first met Pat Falotico, CEO of the Robert K. Greenleaf Center for Servant Leadership, in the spring of 2015 through an introduction by a mutual friend. From our first conversation, I was impressed with this accomplished senior executive and her passion for promoting the concept of servant leadership around the world through the writings of Robert K. Greenleaf and the global non-profit that bears his name.

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Getting Off to a Good Start: Onboarding Pitfalls and Best Practices for Business Leaders

CANDID AND EXPERT GUIDANCE FROM SERVIAM PARTNERS“Transitions are periods of opportunity, a chance to start afresh and to make needed changes in an organization. But they are also periods of acute vulnerability, because you lack established working relationships and a detailed understanding of your new role.” – Michael Watkins, The First 90 Days (HBS Press)

Onboarding has been a relevant business topic and on the radar of most HR leaders inside larger organizations since the mid-90’s when The First 90 Days by author Michael Watkins was released. Many companies followed his challenge to create helpful onboarding experiences for their new hires, particularly in leadership roles. These experiences varied greatly and had mixed results. Some organizations defined onboarding as ‘employee orientation’ and others left it to the new leaders to figure out for themselves, providing little or no organizational support.

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A Road Map for Effectively Serving on Non-Profit Boards

Serviam PartnersOver my 25+ years in business, I have had the good fortune to serve on a number of non-profit boards and am grateful for the enriching experiences, people I have met and worthy causes I have served.  One of the benefits I’ve gleaned from years of community service are lessons about how to effectively serve on a non-profit board.  This post seeks to cull these lessons into an easy-to-follow road map that will hopefully enrich your board service experience and help add value to the organizations you serve.

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Leadership Lessons from a Child with Autism

iStock_000045540378_MediumI have been leading people since I was a 16 year old in high school working at a restaurant in the town where I grew up.  Leadership has always been a passion for me and after years of study, reading dozens of leadership books, listening to mentors and accumulating great experience on the way to a successful career I have come to understand one thing: I can still learn something new about leadership.  In my case, the best source of ongoing leadership lessons is my 19 year old son Alex, who has high functioning autism.

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